Samantha

This is a problem for my friend.1,Her mother scolds her for no reason.If by accident something falls down(doesn't even break)she gets really mad and starts screaming and hitting her.On her mom's bday she got her a gift and she started screaming stop this nonsense .She even tried to talk to her mother but she got even more mad.What should she do now..2.Her father smokes and drinks.Not a lot but she doesn't like that habit.She even talked to him but he says mind your own business.This is her parent crisis.Any other way other than talking.If you can't find anything atleast some nice ways to talk them out of their habits.Pls help.10 pointsI know it is her problem and that's why I want to help her.Thanks penna92 it was nice but she really wants them to stop and can you try to edit your answer and tell some more tips.Anyway thnks.Maria if she talks to them harshly they r not willing to listen they just beat her more.

Unself

it's her problem

penna92

aftr reading da q i can c just one thing .. its that the parents arent interestd ryt ..so i suppose the child shud b least bothered n the same way she behaves .. that wud help them to relaise their mistks ... she shud ry to bring to their notice their misk if not in a nice way then by juz pointing it out but not letting them know that she is doing intensionally ..... but i advice u plzzz althru this b wid her ..she mayb really sad n ask her to find out abt her parents .. lyk if she is adopted or smthin.........i hope ive not hurt u in ny way lyk m not rude ..ok sorry n always remeber ............................ they r ur parents i agree b in the nicest manner until theyre nice (if theyre not nice smtyms it means theyre doing it for childs benefit , here i c no such thing ) so plz go ahead ... do tell me wt the results ......may everyhtin b fine ..dont wry ..GOD BLESS !...............

maria

This is not your friends problem. I had this same problem with my parents. They didn't even care about me. I changed thier attitude towards me by:1. I started to be harsh with my parents and after a few days they began to care about me.2. When my parents were in good mood i did little helps for them like making tea, washing clothes etc.3. When i got extremely angry with them i even destroyed thier things.So they began to love me as a helpful person and as a threat.

alicialions

Although it is possible that things with her mom are not actually a problem or wrong. Kids and teens to have a tendancy to think their parents are mean and that they are somehow hard done by. Often times kids will complain about their parents and blow it all out of proportion when really they are just being good parents and the kids don't want discipline or to be told what to do. Now, that being said, it is also possible that this friend of yours has an abusive mother and that is a problem. I suggest that you tell your friend to talk to someone...like a school councelor or her pediatrician, someone like that she trusts. As for her father drinking and smoking....she may not like it, but it is not her place to ask him to stop. If he is an alcholic and is drunk and possibly mean than she should seek help from someon that she trusts (adult) if she simply doesn't like the smoke and to see her dad even have the occasional drink than she is out of line. I am just saying these things because I think you need to make suggestions to your friend to talk to someone and leave it at that because you are probably too young to help her except by just being a frined to listen to her. Good LUck

afaf_hpotter90

I am not areal expert in family matter, but i try my best.For the mother:A mother is like an angel that was sent by god to lead her children in the right path. However, what any children doesn't know is that she suffers a massive load in her shoulders and sometimes she was exhausted. During the fatigue, she may loses her temper and started to scream or scolding the children. What i'm trying to say, there is no way for a mother to hate her own children. She trying her best to be the best,even if that's mean scolding the children. Just give her some time to ease the pain.You will find it's worth the wait.For the father:The way i see it, it seems that, both of the parents have some issues that need to be rekindle. If the fathers bad habit is not change, that's mean he must seek some help. My best advice is counseling,next would likely to be rehab.I believe that your mother's behavior has something to do with your father's habit. Maybe she doesn't know what to do. As their child, you have to be there with them and help them fight through the pain.

NiraliChaya

1.As per your information,it seems the mother is under some sort of mental stress if her nature is not like that.If it is her nature that means she is hypersensitive,so what your friend could simply do,is to avoid situations and try to keep the house,her room etc. clean and avoid confrontations.When she says something listen quietly,do not answer back.Take care of her and see her change in behaviour.2.There must be somebody whom her father must be respecting.Ask this friend of his or whoso ever they are to tell him to reduce this intake of alcohol and smoking.With these people help it may be possible for him to join a rehabilitation centre even but the friend of yours also has to show care and love towards her parent so that they enjoy a better life together.After all only true relationships give us real happiness.

buzygirlz

ok,that's must be a great problem.she must be her step mom.u must help her.according to me,if ur friend is great and capable enough to do anything .then,slap her and leave the home and settle yourself(u say her)i it's 2 much....if not,then tell her to do whatever and however her mom feels good,till she becomes capable enough.